In Memory of Ashley

The words that best define Ashley are courage and determination. Ashley demonstrated a vast amount of courage throughout the duration of her illness. She faced her disease head-on with the wisdom of a person far beyond her 16 years. Ashley also demonstrated a sense of determination that could have won any war. Although she did not win the battle with her brain tumor, she did win in that she lived and died in the manner she chose.

Ashley did not allow her illness to define who she was. Although only sixteen when diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor she continued to live until the moment she took her last breath. Ashley remained her own person living life in the manner she chose. She also became a pillar of strength for the people around her. Her positive attitude and sense of humor provided her family with the strength to face each day. Her upbeat manner gave her friends the ability to offer their support. She found an ability to laugh at herself instead of feeling sorry for what happened and wallowing in self-pity.

Ashley refused to accept pity and be immobilized by this emotion. Ashley had a goal she wanted to see realized as a result of her illness. This goal encompassed her long-term desire of working in the field of psychology. Unfortunately, Ashley never was able to fully realize this goal. However, Ashley was able to address her desire to help others in many ways. First, she diligently made a documentary through which she will share her most important thoughts, feelings, and needs as an adolescent faced with a life threatening illness. Second, she has left a legacy that will help many other teenagers, families, friends, and professionals who are dealing with or helping someone cope with a life-threatening illness. Last, she initiated the idea, which lead to the development of The Ashley Foundation, a not-for-profit organization that will focus on Ashley's goals.

To have known Ashley on a more personal note would reveal her love of art and music. Ashley was artistically gifted and held great potential, incorporating art into her life goals. She was also a talented pianist. Her favorite color was blue. Her favorite flower was the orchid. Her favorite season was autumn. She was a member of Amnesty International because of her strong concern for the well being of others. Although a quiet person she proved to have many friends who care about her. These friends, as Ashley has shared, gave her strength.

It is with such sadness that words cannot describe that I mourn the loss of my daughter. But it is in the memories that we have created over the 16 years of her short life that I will survive.

Darlene Armacost
(Ashley's Mom)

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